THE GOOD RELAXATION GUIDE

This article is intended to give advice on how to deal with various situations that give rise to stress.

Physical Tension

Tension can show in many different ways - aches, stiffness, heart-racing, perspiration, stomach churning, etc. Do not be worried about this.

Build relaxing things into your lifestyle every day and take your time. Do not rush. Do not try too hard.

Value times of relaxation. Think of them as essentials not extras. Give relaxation some of your best time, not just what is left over.

Learn a relaxation routine, but do not expect to learn without practice. There are many relaxation routines available, especially on audio tape. These help you to reduce muscle tension and to learn how to use your breathing to help you relax.

Keep fit. Physical exercise, such as regular brisk walk or a swim, can help to relieve tension.

Worry

Accept that worry can be normal and that it can be useful. Some people worry more than others, but everyone worries sometimes.

Write down your concerns. Decide which ones are more important by rating each out of ten. Work out a plan of action for each problem.

Share your worries. Your friends of your general practitioner can give you helpful advice.

Doing crosswords, reading, taking up a hobby or an interest, can all keep your mind active and positive. You can block out worrying thoughts by mentally repeating a comforting phrase.

Practice enjoying quiet moments (e.g. sitting listening to relaxing music). Allow your mind to wander and try to picture yourself in pleasant, enjoyable situations.

Difficult situations

Try to build up your confidence. Try not to avoid circumstances where you feel more anxious. A step-by-step approach is best to help you face things and places which make you feel tense. Regular practice will help you overcome your anxiety.

Make a written plan and decide how you are going to deal with difficult situations.

Reward yourself for successes. Tell others. We all need encouragement.

Your symptoms may return as you face up to difficult situations. Keep trying, and they should become less troublesome as your confidence grows.

Everyone has good days and bad days. Expect to have more good days as time goes on.

Try to put together a programme, based on all the elements outlined above, that will meet the needs of your particular situation. Remember that expert guidance and advice is available if you need further help.